This could be an eye-opening experience for your spouse. But I have alway been a bit of a perfectionist and sometimes think too much about things that seem out-of-place. Here are some examples gleaned from couples counseling. On top of that, he is unwilling to communicate, listen, and understand what you want. So let's figure out why some husbands act passive. It gets you the help you need and provides . It. She used to call him a stuffed animal. My mom took me places. They must assume a greater level of responsibility in their relationships. Oh, and read my review of The Surrendered Wife. So whereas another man would be upset that she wasnt ready in time to leave to a wedding, her husband is never ready himself, which leaves her plenty of time to deal with the kids properly without feeling rushed. Thanks so much! ET It's not just sex, he feels sad we longer snuggle or even hug or kiss most days. Oh my gosh Gerri just gave a personal example of why Rob is so frustrated! They grew up in an environment where being more go-with-the-flow was reinforced. Absence is an interesting thing. Vanessa's husband insisted that the husband was always the head of the household and if she didn't see the world in his way, then she was violating her vows and god's plan. I decided to treat her like she was my elderly forgetful . And maybe after Applebees, he will rip your clothes off like Christian Grey did withwhats her name in the aforementioned Fifty Shades of Grey. The problem is, when you have been on a plateau for so long, your man might have already given up. Morefrustrating is the fact that, though we have regular, satisfying sex, I always initiate. A Personal Perspective: Poor choices, poor results. Now she clocks everything and she knows that when he says that he is heading to bed, shes got X amount of time to finish up what she has to do. She had been thrusted into a relationship which was something that was both glorious and frightening for her. My husband is the youngest one in the family so I guess he is the baby. Explicitly create a safe space for your husband to express his feelings, needs and wants. Unfortunatelyfor her husband, we do not live in the 18 century and Vanessa soon began rebelling along a lot of fronts. Leah has a student whose husband was slow at everything. Trying to force your partner to change does not work. 4. This seems to be a common complaint among the women I see in couples counseling as well.