Use I statements. I was always available, texted first 99% of the time, and became comfortable just watching movies on the couch which may have put us in a rut where we stopped doing exciting things. She said no and that if she did she would be honest. She always told me that she cares for me, appreciates me, loves me and we talked about the possibility of moving together. Thanks for the reply i dont think i am the Codependant or needy so much, s[ent half my life travelling and living overseas working in tourism and teaching so pretty open , independent and free, usually pretty happy alone travelled alone many years also , but definitely when have a woman i care about like to show her i care and love her, do things for her etc obviously I been doing it all wrong so definitely going to read those books (already downloaded them) as i am always willing to learn and improve myself .. That fight happened, things got very emotional/dramatic (especially from me! Best. Here is the link if you would like to take the next step. We did run into one another after 10 days of no contact. It was that night she deleted me. Thanks apollonia this really cleared my head I didnt know what to do until I read this right now I have some relief thank you!! Then she asked if I wanted to have dinner later. Hi Appolianna, Me and my girlfriend recently went on holiday and it wasnt right from the night before we went. which I said ok and like I said I havent called but do pick up the phone when she calls because I am trying to give her what she wants. I texted her Monday night after work. And it can help you remember that they only need space for a while, not forever, which may allow you to feel more comfortable giving space for a few days. We have been together for almost three years and live in the same house. We didnt end on bad terms, I do not wish to bother her but there is something that feels wrong about leaving her alone, but I dont know if this is what she needs. The worst part is that from that relationship she now suffers from ptsd and depression. Thanks for your comment! She says she loves me too though, and I believe her, and that is what I do not understand. And then we had a fight not anything huge but she then asked for space Every comment she came up with seemed like it was an excuse. I cant help but think someone else is involved or she really needs to just give us time. There are many good reasons to bite the bullet and give her the space shes asking for. Here are the links with more information. Sorry for what you and your family went through. She also said she was unsure about the future. I didnt plead for her to stay I textd her once or twice after breakup but I am giving her space now.. What would you advice me? Which has now caused this issue that she said she wants to be on her own she doesnt know what she wants, she just said she doesnt feel like herself anymore. As you said give space dont call , dont text okay i ll do that but do you think after doing this all she will come back ? Thank you for reading my blog about when she says she needs space. How can I win her back again but also give her the time we both need to heal & increase the love so that this never happens again? It seems like there is a big sense of control here. She feels obligated to help her niece and is always there for her because the dad is not very supportive to better himself. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/. My question is, do I have a chance to get her back now?